Tales of the uninvited, of the one to be hidden

It seems to be that the cruelest category in life is not the new wife who should not be shown, but the new child of a second family that will be forbidden for life to attend any familiar celebration. It can be a wedding, the one-year-old-birthday of the new nephew, the entrance to the clinic where the new nephew was born,  any nephew or niece´s birthday at any age, Christmas, New Year, sisters´ birthdays, possibly brother-in-laws´ birthdays, and whatever familiar celebration you can think of.  But wait a minute, when it is your birthday, you are supposed to invite them all. It is not even thinkable that you do not want to spend the day with the family that the rest of the year left you outside their lives. To their mind, why should I do that? Why wouldn't I be eager to have them all at my birthday party? Why if there is a simple reason for them to exclude me from every single celebration? Their mom do not want to meet me, and therefore, I cannot go to any celebration she is invited. And that is when I become the uninvited, the one to be hidden.

And there have gone many years now. I believe it wouldn’t bother me so much (although I always suffered for this) if my parents still lived in Buenos Aires, and not eight  hundred kilometres away. Let´s figure this out: Christmas and New Year - I have two options, either I travel to San Luis until January, or I spend  both celebrations alone or in the best of circumstances with the family of a friend, what have already happened and they welcomed me even better than my family. But the thing is, travelling to San Luis does not guarantee that we will have the festive season in peace, since my father always manages to spoil the night due to his drinking. When I had a boyfriend things were different. I would spend both celebrations with his family, and although I may suffer all the same inside, outside world did not notice. But well, now I´m alone, me and my soul, and it seems that I will spend all celebrations going to bed at ten.

So, if you are starting a blended family, a new family within a broken family, please make sure that both wives can at least stand the presence of each other in a particular situation and so forth. And if you are told that the former wife is insane and that she is prone to make a fuss and so forth, it is better not to take the risk, please run away for the sake of your future child.